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Beyond Breakups - Embracing A New Beginning

Do Not Repeat Your Mistakes - Counseling During A New Relationship

filed in on Jul 13, 2009

I often work with couples prior to their marriage or living together to fine tune and explore values, communications skills and old issues that may come up during their relationship.  It is very possible that their is a hidden agenda on each person part, and that hurts and betrayal from the past have not been fully understood and healed. 

 

In fact, most hurts from past relationships get buried only to surface in the new relationship,which causes stress and misunderstanding.

 

So many people are jumping in and out of their bodies,and in and out of relationships, not understanding why or what they need to do differently to have a healthy relationship bond.

  

The Goal I have in mind is to bring two people together in a common purpose and to state out loud the intention of doing what is best in the Highest Good of the relationship.  Since this is about a deeper commitment to move the relationship forward, it requires the uniting and joining of heart and soul.

 

HIGHEST GOOD implies coming from your heart and affirming that this relationship is to support each other reaching their full potential.  It is a commitment of  two people joined in love. 

  

It is important to connect with your heart and soul and lay the foundation with a clear intention, exposing any unrealistic expectation each have brought into the relationship.  This will set a strong foundation and create a healthy relationship bond.

 

Then during the relationship,conflicts, individual differences and arguments can be minimized.   The intention of the relationship is stated, written down and there is an verbal agreement.  The intention needs to be reaffirmed and talked about on a regular basis to continue to strengthen the healthy bond.

 

 

 

 

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