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From Victim To Victory - Breakup and Beyond
filed in Finding Soul on Apr 7, 2009
There is no question that a breakup of any kind, a relationship, loss of job, friend, or your home can lead to a sense of helpless. This can evoke the victim type of counsciouness. You are entitled to feel angry, hurt, lost and scard. But, when you stay in the victim and helplessness you stay stuck.
First, feel your feelings in a safe place, at home, with a close friend, therapist or someone in your church community. Then when you feel heard, move to the next step which is knowing and feeling that you have control of yourself. Not control of others.
Then move to the next step which is to list the choices you have in dealing with the situation. This is a different level of consciousness. It requires you to dive deep inside yourself and pull on your inner resources that may be asleep. They are there, so dive in and find the courage, strength and faith to move forward.
Taking one small step at a time, loving yourself all the way. Never judging yourself by saying “I should of,” “I could of”, “Why didn’t I”, etc etc.
This is the way out of the suffering. Self love and compassion. Then pull on all the love and support of others that you trust and who are there to offer their support.
Blessings
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