Are You Waiting For The Other Shoe To Drop

filed in Finding Soul on Mar 16, 2009

Have you heard this expression before?  ARE YOU WAITING FOR THE OTHER SHOE TO DROP?  Do you find yourself on guard, when things are calm, anticipating something going wrong?   Do you find that when something good happens, you cannot take it in, your mind quickly shifts to fear or some negative thought?

We all carry our personal histories from our childhood and throughout our adult life.  If you had experience a series of difficult situations, disappointments and  problem without consistent loving attention that provided safety, you may of develop belief system that you carry around silently in the background of your mind, “ something always is going to go wrong”.  This is especially evident in those who come from alcoholic homes, but not exclusive to those with this background.  What develops is a very deep belief that good is not constant and that one better be prepared for the worst, so the strategy of the child is to be vigilant and always expect the worse.

And then a divorce or a breakup and  another giant shoe drops.   

It is important to recognize that your mind may have a habit of looking for, waiting for, and expecting something bad or negative to happen.   Sometimes we don’t even recognize when our thoughts are going in this direction.   It is in the subconscious and often in your background conversation you have with yourself.

1. The first step is to recognize if your carry this vigilance and belief system.

2.  Pay attention to your mind and your behavior and see how often you shift into the worry, or anticipation of something going wrong.  Are you waiting for the next shoe to drop.

3.  When you find your mind going in this direction, stop, pause, take a deep breath and give yourself a positive affirmation.

4.  Tell your inner child that yes, that may of been your past, but it does not have to be your future. 

5.  Then tell yourself to let go of this belief and watch it float away out of your mind like a balloon floating off into space. 

6.  Now replace a positive visualization of the future, anything you would like to happen.   See this visualization in your minds eye.  Stop and take in the joy you feel throughout your day, whatever it may be.  Looking at a sunset, or into the eyes of your child, someone smiling and giving you a complement etc.

Be loving and kind to yourself.   But recognize that you may be carrying this belief around in your body,mind and heart. The first step in change is recognizing the belief that needs to change.   Good luck and blessings to you.