Is Divorce Putting A Cloud Around Your Soul
filed in Finding Soul on Jan 26, 2009
I did a lecture last week to about 40 women going through a divorce or a breakup. I spoke about the spiritual dimension of divorce, and that this crisis elicits a deeper search into the core of ones being. I bring this up in all of the divorce workshop I do, because I believe that all relationships are part of the journey of the soul. And when a significant relationship ends it triggers a spiritual crisis; and that this crisis will unfold into a deeper connection with ones soul if one does the inner work.
Many stood up and commented that since their divorce they have felt “shut down”, and “disconnected” from their religion or spiritual practice and from their connection with “God”. They may of stop going to the church, or stop praying and doing their spiritual practice. Or they may be continuing to pray, but feel their prayers are not being answered so they feel abandoned. Some women/men even tell me they feel like they are being punished, because so much is being taken away.
In difficult times such as a relationship breakup, a cloud hangs over us and it is difficult to connect with our own spiritual essence and feel the connection to “Spirit”, “God”, Higher Power” or whatever word one uses to define their spiritual belief. It certainly has happened to me. When I feel the grief and emotional pain, I have to tell myself that my heart and soul are always connected to spirit even if I am not feeling the love or blessings at the moment.
I believe when the darkness and shadow of difficult times occurs, it requires a deeper commitment and a stronger desire to connect. When I do my prayer at dinner or before bed, I often ask that my doubt be replaced with faith, that my fear be replaced with hope and that my pain be cleansed away so that I can feel the help that is always available.
Go inside your body and talk from your heart. Keep pulling on all the spiritual resources, techniques and religious ceremonies that have helped you in the past and trust that the light will once again show itself.
I invite you to share your experiences with how this divorce or breakup has helped you deeper your spiritual essence.