Taking The Leap Of Faith Following A Breakup
filed in New Beginnings on May 31, 2007
There are many losses associated with a breakup and divorce; loss of home, intact family life, lifestyle and financial security to name only a few. You search for answers and logic to this trauma. Most of your questions start with “why”. Why has this happened? Why do I have to lose so much? Why do I have to start over? Why did I chose someone who cannot fully love? But, the answers do not come easily.
You may then look for someone to blame, God, yourself, your ex-partner. But, this does not bring satisfaction or inner peace. In fact it makes you feel guilty. Now is the time to take that leap of faith and trust that out of this crisis you will find a deeper meaning in your life. And from this change you will find parts of yourself that you ignored, put aside or buried. In fact I hear many people say that in order to stay in the relationship they had to give up a part of themselves. And when the relationship is over, they live with more authenticity and find the answer to their original questions.
Trust is not something that comes easily, especially when you feel so betrayed (as you feel when a breakup occurs). But, you must lean into the unknown and trust that something meaningful is occurring. You must let go of the “should” and “should not” and let your deeper self navigate the next chapter in your life.
This is not an easy job, but it is the work, and the way out of the pain.
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