Letting In Compliments
filed in Self Esteem on May 7, 2007
A women client of mine described her struggle with letting in complements. She stated, “I am a 42 year old professional, and no matter what I accomplish or how often others compliment me I cannot take it in; I ignore it and say something to divert attention. I don’t know how long I have been doing this.”
Are you having trouble taking in compliments? Are you aware that when someone says something nice, you automatically pass it off, change the subject, get embarrassed or say, “Oh! that was nothing” and dismiss the remark.
Pay attention the next time someone gives you a compliment. The first step is to notice your response. If you are aware you are avoiding taking it in, stop and try something different.
The next time someone compliment you no matter how small of insignificant you think it is, pause and do not say anything for a moment. Then, take a deep slow breath, feel your feet on the ground, pause, and just say thank you. Do not add any other words. You may find it difficult at first to only say two simple words “thank you”, but over time you will improve. If you practice this it will become more natural
Taking in compliments from others is absolutely essential to taking in deeper intimacy and love. It will improve your self esteem and help heal your inner emotional wounds.
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