Moving Toward Forgiveness In The Grieving Process
filed in Grieving Process on Apr 10, 2007
So many women and men I see continue to blame their ex-partner or their present partner for not feeling fulfilled. In fact, the blame can start soon after a relationship begins. It is here where the unrealistic expectation, that are hidden and unconscious come forth in the relationship. Immediately, people look to their partner not only for love but for making up for what they may not of received as a child. This is more than any partner can do.
When we do not get what we need we can become angry. Anger is a necessary component of the grieving process. And it is necessary to acknowledge the anger. But, forgiveness is where you are heading. Forgiving yourself for the mistakes you think you have made, and for causing yourself pain.. And forgiving your partner or ex-partner of what they have done to cause you pain. For the times you were not listened to or understood, for the promises that he/she made but did not keep. For the values that he/she did not live up.
You have the ability to forgive within you. All you need is the sincere desire to forgive and let go. Create a ritual where you let go of all of the pain and anger. Put the negative feelings and the events into a balloon and watch it drift away in space. Write everything down on paper and burn or bury the paper. These rituals can help you move toward forgiveness. It is a process and may happen gradually.
As you continue to work on forgiveness you will open and expand. You will begin to feel more of your heart. When your heart is open you will be more able to take in more of the love and good around you. As you do this your own unresolved historical pain will dissolve.
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