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How Do I Let Go of Wanting Something From My "Ex"?
filed in Self Esteem on Mar 6, 2007
Questions I often hear from women: How do I get closure when he won’t talk about anything? Why won’t he acknowledge the good in the relationship, why is he blaming me for everything? How can he just walk away and stop “caring” especially since I loved him so much?
Does anything sound familiar? These qustions are common. The mind wants logic. It searches for understanding and a reason why this is happening. But, often logic does not work and is not available, and we must deal with our emotions and the pain without having answers.
It would be nice if your former partner could acknowledge the gifts in the relationship, could talk about his emotional pain of leaving; could take responsibility for his part of the relationship ending. There is nothing wrong with wanting this, but it is unlikely to happen.
Therefore, it means that you are required to go within and give yourself what you are looking for from the other. You must validate yourself for all the things that you have done for your former partner, you must honor your own feelings and emotional pain. You must let go of any blame and replace it with self-love and self-forgiveness, and you must find the gift in the relationship. This will bring you to a place of closure. Letting go of wanting something from our former partner is not easy, but absolutely necessary. Learning to give to yourself is the path leading to your wholeness.
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