Dealing With Old Pain And Letting It Go.
filed in Grieving Process on Mar 28, 2007
A client ask me the other day, “how do I live in the moment and appreciate what I have now, when I keep thinking of all the things that happened during my relationship where I felt used and mistreated?”
When you are out of a relationship it is common to reflect on previous holidays, episodes, past conversations where you felt insulted, ignored, abused and wounded in some way. Even though at the time you chose not to speak to your hurt, the feelings often do not disappear; they remain in the body until some acknowledgment and honoring of our feelings takes place.
Here is a technique to try. Give yourself a half hour or hour a day, where you give yourself attention to the hurt that has occurred over the lifetime of your relationship. Journal, talk into a tape recorder, call a friend and vent. Often when we give voice to our hurt, no matter how long ago it occurred we can let it go. And, if you know you are going to give yourself a certain amount of time in a day to attended to your feelings, you will be more successful at acknowledging the good and being grateful for what you do have presently in your life.
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