Victim Vs. Empowerment
filed in Survival vs. Empowerment on Feb 23, 2007
One of the most important aspects of empowerment is the ability to set limits. You may ask what does setting limits look like. Think about these questions.
How often are you saying “yes” when you mean “no”? Are you sending clear messages, making your feelings, needs, opinions clear, or are you hiding, withholding your feelings, because you are fearful to express them? Are you pro active, taking action when you need, or do you passively sit back waiting for fate or someone else to take over? Are you able to make decision based on the information you have, or do you obsess and doubt your capability to make the right decision for yourself. Do you blame and criticize yourself or accept yourself when you make a mistake? Are you asserting yourself in a calm forthright manner, or are you yelling, crying whining, begging when you are trying to discuss what you need?
Make note of these questions and monitor yourself during a day and see how often you are coming from a victim position or an empowerment position. Observe yourself as you interact with your co-worker, boss or former spouse. Becoming aware is the first step in change.
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