Finding Our Your Former Patner is Dating
filed in Self Esteem on Feb 6, 2007
Often I see women and men experience distress when they actually have evidence that their former partner is dating. It happened just recently with a friend of mine. Shock, anger and sadness moved through her like a volcano, even thought she thought she was completely recovered. Momentarily, her self-esteem took a nose dive. Everyone who has had a breakup will probably go through this experience. If you have not yet, don’t be surprised. This is to be expected. It won’t last long. It is a wave of emotions that will lead to further detachment from your former partner.
This is another opportunity to let go of the hurt that may still be with you. So, acknowledge and honor your feelings. Talk to a friend and give yourself 15 minutes to vent. Then do something special for yourself. Healing occurs when we can connect with ourselves, name the feelings and make a shift in consciousness. The shift is from feelings like a victim with such thoughts as “How could he/she do this”. “He/she did not really care”, “I feel used”. to knowing that the breakup is in your highest good. Replace the victim thoughts and say to yourself, “I deserve someone who will be loving and supportive”, “I am on my right path”; “I will be given everything I need”. “I will love again and be loved”.
Also, keep in mind that when someone enters into another relationship without doing the inner work they will take their unresolved grief along with them. Unresolved grief keeps the heart closed.
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