Don't go on the hunt just yet
filed in New Beginnings on Nov 19, 2006
So often I see women and men jump into a relationship much too soon after a breakup. In fact, a friend of mine actually got engaged before his divorce was final. I said to him. “Stop and take a deep breath maybe this is not the right move.” Its so tempting to quickly seek comfort as fast as you can, falling in the arms of another. Oh! how good it feels and how quickly your feelings of rejection can disappear – temporarily.
Well, here is the problem. When relationship end, you do have a loss of self and a loss of identify.You will feel a little anxious so you may quickly go on the hunt for another partner, looking outside yourself to find what is missing.
This is a mistake. First, you abandon yourself; second, you ignore the fact that everything you need is inside of you; third, you will recreate the same old problem with someone who you think is different than the partner you left.
Do not hypnotize yourself in thinking the answer is outside, that somewhere in another relationship you will find your wholeness. All the answers are inside. So, please take the time to look. The most important work right now, is to treat yourself the way you want others to treat you. Then after you love yourself and feel your wholeness, you will find the right partner. Remember,
The Most Important Relationship Is The Relationship You Have With Yourself.
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