Dealing with the Initial Phase of A Loss
filed in Mind, Body Connection on Oct 24, 2006
You may of thought about a divorce or breakup and even discussed it with your partner, but now it is real, someone has left. You feel more alone than ever. You find yourself having a difficult time with the silence and the empty space. You don’t know what to do with yourself. This is when the roller coaster of emotions begins until the new reality of being on your own becomes more familiar.
Often, when we are in a great deal of emotional pain we regress to unhealthy coping strategies. We let our minds run wild going over and over events of the past, thinking we are resolving our pain. We shut down our body and numb ourselves out so as not to feel the pain. And we shut ourselves off from our spiritual essence where our deep wisdom and strength resides. Don’t let this happen. Attend to you body, mind and soul with healthy coping and nurturing activities. Here are some suggestions.
Healing the Body – Stretch your body or go for a walk daily (only if you are physically able),get a massage, take yourself out for a healthy meal, take a beginners class in yoga, pay attention to your breathing throughout the day, check in with your body,ask yourself how you are feeling. This will help you connect to your body and stay centered.
Healing the Mind – Talk to a friend or professional, journal all your thoughts, talk into a tape recorder all the things you want to say to your partner, take up meditation. This will help calm and relax you mind.
Finding your Soul – Listen to music, read spiritual literature, volunteer, go to a religious or spiritual service that resonates with you, take a walk in nature, go on a retreat. This will help you connect with your spiritual essence.
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